If someone is abusing you, it’s time to get help, come up with a plan to keep yourself safe (since an abuser may become more violent at this time), and get out, Gomez says.If you’re facing an immediate threat to your safety, you can call 911.
Abusive behavior between teenaged guys and girls is common these days, as Jennifer and several experts told Web MD.
Some guys may have wrong ideas about abuse in relationships.
About 9% of teens are the victim of physical violence from a dating partner each year, according to the CDC.
But much of the abuse that goes on between teens may not be physical, says Elizabeth Miller, MD, Ph D, a doctor at the University of Pittsburgh who focuses on teen dating violence.
And after the story involving singers Chris Brown and Rihanna hit the news a few years ago, Emilio Ulloa, Ph D -- another dating violence expert -- noticed that plenty of high-schoolers assumed that Rihannahad done something wrong. Some grow up in cultures that urge the men to be strong, which some guys confuse with being aggressive or controlling, says Ulloa, who researches dating violence at San Diego State University.
Teens he talked to said some of their friends “immediately asked questions about what Rihanna did to upset him, like ‘What kind of women is she? Sometimes teens pick up habits that they think are signs of love, but are actually controlling, like asking their girlfriends for their Facebook password.
Statistics show that 1 in 3 teenagers have experienced or will experience violence in a dating relationship.
In dating violence, one partner tries to maintain power and control over the other through abuse.
Jennifer Gómez never forgot about her high school boyfriend after graduation.
He haunted her in nightmares even after she moved away and changed her name. "He hadn’t realized, for all these years, everything he’d done to me.
But it’s not hard to avoid bad behavior, whether you’re dating, hooking up, or hanging out (and whether you consider yourself straight, gay, or any other category).