New rules internet dating

“I asked my friend to describe me, and here’s what he wrote…” is a cop-out.

By writing this in your profile, you’re telling people that you’re not smart or self-aware enough to write it yourself.

In the new age of online dating, Facebook, Twitter and text, some would say the dating game has been made a whole lot easier, with a host of technology quite literally in the palm of your hand to help you connect with the man of your dreams.

Others, including the authors of just published book The New Rules, would argue that technology has made dating etiquette a lot more complicated.

You’re two grown-ups, not a sugardaddy and his gold-digger.

Chivalry means being attentive, thoughtful and fair, not paying for all the food.

I am one of the many people she accuses of being a “repressive Anglo-Saxon with hang-ups about infidelity with sour and rigid views of affairs” and perhaps if I had been a little less stressed about the implications behind my marriage breakdown I could have kept our family together and all would have been well. When I signed up to marriage I was expecting to get all that from my partner, not from someone outside the marriage. And if you don’t find that in your partner and feel the need to go elsewhere instead of trying to mend it then isn’t there something seriously wrong with your marriage in the first place?

“Marital love is one thing”, she says, “affairs are another – “about excitement, being alive, seduction, flirtation, love, affection, sexual bliss, lust, caution, eroticism, fantasy, danger, adventure, exploration and the determined refusal to grow old gracefully”. Yes, she is probably right in arguing that as we live a lot longer and we become increasingly sexually aware (although speak for yourself in that camp) that we perhaps might need to look at the traditional marital rules – but I would suggest that if you think you want to frolic about with other people and get away with it then don’t get married at all.Hakim, however, doesn't advocate letting your spouse find out about the affair -- she asserts that the "first rule" of an affair is to “never [have one] in your own backyard where you are most exposed to discovery.” Sociologists have advocated cheating or open marriages before, but we've also seen the negative consequences of affairs on relationships. So we want to hear from you: is an affair really the secret to a happy marriage? If you like someone, you have nothing to lose by letting them know.If they are interested, they’ll be happy that you called.Six emails in total – not each – is enough to know whether you want a date. Chances are that you won’t fancy each other, or that only one of you will fancy the other. It’s easy to lose faith when your first few dates don’t work out.