After the painstaking process of answering 120 questions, I finally began to get matched.
I had selected men in the age range 28–41, and was paired with quite a few.
Twenty years on from the launch of the first online dating site, Match.com, perceptions (and usage) of Internet dating have changed significantly.
I procrastinated starting out on my assignment for a week as I battled with the ego and the fear of looking desperate.I’d had serious relationships in the past, and the main feedback my pastors had given me was not that I wasn’t ready for marriage, nor wouldn’t make a great wife, but that I simply didn’t know what I wanted.So, at 35, and still yet to find the right man to marry, would the online dating world be full of desperate souls seeking marriage so their lives could begin?Or maybe I’d turn out to be one of those fortunate ones who shares in their wedding toast, ‘My husband is the best thing I found on the Internet.’For two months I would trial online agencies from my current home in a small town in northern California.But I was slightly disappointed with the options I was being given: too old, too young; too invested in believing in ‘the one’ rather than the best ones.
Too many were divorced and didn’t sound like they were healed from the last marriage.
I might ask her for the number of her colourist though.
She has nice pink hair’, I reply.team, I agreed to experiment in trying to find love in the cyber world, with all its personality filters: lawn game champion, marathoner, political junkie, health nut, zombie survivalist, tree-hugger, vegan, die-hard carnivore, non-believer in cologne (or deodorant), and finally, but importantly for me, just how much are you a Christian – really?
‘It appears being a Christian is not working on this site.
And any of the men I am interested in have probably viewed my profile, discovered that I’m over 30, and clicked off.’ Said friend is 39, and beautiful.
The three of us had never had an issue with our age, until men on these sites started to highlight it – be it in messages, in conversation, or in their lock-down filters for girls under 29.