As a single, hetereosexual woman, its only natural that I spend some time observing the opposite sex as I go through my travels.
Whilst I am not looking for a long-term relationship per se, I do enjoy the company of men (platonic and romantic) and it would be nice to make some friends in my new homeland.
This denigrates the Indian man into something only marginally short of a sloth and depresses me even further. Then this one in Tehelka that essentially blames parenting styles, and mothers in particular, for molly-coddling their sons.
Whilst she was lovely and friendly, her presence changed our plans and the dynamic of our meeting.
I have never encountered this before when meeting Western men or women for that matter. It all seemed strange, and quite honestly a little disappointing.
Reflecting on these experience I felt a bit perplexed, so I typed “Indian Men” into Google.
Up popped a couple of sites linking me to “Hot Men” lists, and of course the obligatory dating site where I could find Indian men.
As I am traveling, I most often come across the average man on the street, like the stall owner or rickshaw driver.
I must admit that after a few weeks of observing him I found myself almost completely repulsed by men.
Several years ago I tried my hand at internet dating through the website
Here I found hundreds of men all with photos where they looked like their mother had dressed them.
Whilst he was hardworking and I believe his intentions are good, some of the personal habits I observed left a lot to be desired.
The constant spitting (apparently due to chewing tobacco), public urination (and by this I mean pulling it out anywhere there is space and going), nose picking and staring at me (usually whilst also fiddling with their nether regions) are a few of the distasteful activities I observed.
In my opinion, if they had to go out and attract a woman entirely on their own (and assuming she had unfettered free will and choice in the matter), they would be less likely to indulge in these behaviours. In years past I have come to India for work, and in my current stay in Delhi I am living with family and am privy to another side of India.