This is the most common complaint I hear from foreign women when they’re dating a Japanese man.
In many Western countries, the majority of men show their affection directly through words and action (hugging, kissing) – even in public.
Meetings are too long, too frequent and energy is being wasted on redundant, often unnecessary tasks.If it weren’t for those things, we could actually go home much earlier!Growing up in Japan, I thought it’s completely normal to work all day long with lots of overtime.What makes me sad is that it’s not because we’re workaholics or passionate about our jobs, but because work in Japan is extremely inefficient.The majority of Japanese men admit that they’re never saying the “3 little words” (I love you).
They hardly ever give compliments such as “You look so beautiful today.” As a woman, if you never get to hear such words, it makes you feel insecure and unloved.
You’ll keep asking yourself : “Does this guy really like me?
” Many Western men are quite outgoing and communicative, while many Japanese men don’t talk much in general, let alone in a relationship.
In Western culture it’s quite common that the man is the one approaching the woman. That’s simply because a lot of Japanese men are quite shy, even more so with foreign girls.
I’d say it’s not a problem if you’re shy as a Japanese woman.
We use nuanced words, tone of voice and other subtle clues that communicate feelings all the time.