They need to think about their thoughts, so that they can respond instead of just react. Today, I believe it’s actually healthy to take some time before tackling an issue. If someone isn’t ready to talk about an issue when you are, it doesn’t mean they don’t care. But so many of us instantly internalize when our partner shies away from our sexual advances. You’ll be consumed with life issues, or maybe you won’t be feeling good about your body, and you will hope your partner understands and doesn’t make it all about him or her. If they’re not ready to say "I love you" when you are, they’re not interested in the relationship anymore.
That being said, they do have to come back to the issue to discuss it, or they probably are avoiding. If they don’t feel like having sex, it means they are not attracted to you anymore. Usually, the first thing we believe is that it’s us, and that they’re not attracted to us anymore. Many believe that saying “I love you” should come after a certain amount of time in a relationship, so they start saying it when they feel they mean it.
I am totally guilty of falling into this trap; I still struggle with it.
Most likely, you’re pulling from your own insecurities or comparing this person’s response time to others from your past.Be patient: The truth will eventually float to the top.I have a friend who will engage in lightning-speed text banter for hours, then suddenly go dark and completely ignore a question I asked for days.At first, I was offended (hurt) and questioned our friendship. So I accepted that and adjusted, and we’re still good friends. If they don’t try to kiss you on the first date, it means they’re not into you.Without even talking to him or getting the facts, I made a decision to distance myself. There are so many reasons why a kiss doesn’t surface on a first date that has nothing to do with you or the chemistry.
I thought if he’s not going to give me as much as I give him, why invest in this? Then I slowly got used to it and learned that that’s just the way he is. The person may want to kiss you, but the timing may be off, or the activity doesn’t allow for that moment.Let’s go through some common mixed signals and see if you can relate: 1.Not responding to texts right away means they are no longer interested, or that something went horribly wrong.You start to play things back and wonder where the holes were, especially if this person is someone you recently met. It’s not the obvious dropoff that gets our mind spinning. But when the inconsistencies are subtle, like minutes turning into hours, or the tone and energy changing, it can drive us nuts. So what do you do when you notice a slight delay or change in tone?Then, of course, you find out the truth: They were in a meeting. If their response time goes from a few minutes to two days, yeah, something has changed — most likely feelings. Don’t jump to conclusions until you get all the information.You would have had a hard time convincing me in my twenties, but now, at 43, I know that not wanting to have sex doesn’t mean your girlfriend isn’t attracted to you. We have long days that leave us mentally and physically exhausted. Either way, an unreturned “I love you” doesn’t necessarily mean your partner is no longer interested in you. For others, it’s an often grasped sign of security.