James Ward, a lawyer in San Francisco who transitioned about six years ago, put it this way: “We have the ability to just walk through the world and not have anybody look at you twice.” One day in court, Ward and his opposing counsel were making a big request to a judge.
In one previous job, he heard his boss call female colleagues “old cows” and refer to a middle-aged job applicant as “Dame Edna” after she’d left an interview.
“Evidently men say things like that to each other all the time,” he says.
“If I’m going off-the cuff, no-one really questions it,” Ward says.
“It’s taken as, ‘He’s saying it, so it must be true.’ Whereas while I was practicing as female, it was ‘Show me your authority, you don’t know any better yet.’” Mitch Davis is now a director of organizational development at Planned Parenthood Federation of America in New York City, but he’s worked in HR for many different companies since coming out eight years ago.
Three guys are sitting at a Harlem bartop eating fries, drinking whiskey and talking about love.
One of them, Bryce Richardson, is about to propose to his girlfriend.Other trans men say they’ve heard male co-workers sexualize female colleagues when no women are present.“There’s some crude humor, some crass humor,” says Cameron Combs, an IT consultant in Olympia, Washington.But if they hadn’t said so, you wouldn’t have known.Over the last three years, transgender awareness has exploded.S.; it’s nearly impossible to know how many of them are trans men.) Yet experiences of trans men can provide a unique window into how gender functions in American society.