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As writer Mitali Saran sagaciously put it, as a society that is pathologically devoted to marriage, we hate free-range vaginas, that is women who are single, divorced, unmarried, widowed, commitment phobic or sexually active. Men in India have been granted more sexual impunity than women.
This is implicit in the fact that sexually liberated men are called ‘cool’ or ‘players’ or ‘stud’ while sexually liberated women are labelled ‘loose’ or ‘slutty’ or ‘unmarriageable’.
We can’t give them that kind of power.”Another female friend — making a staunch case against hookups — adds. “Would a man be as open to casual sex on Tinder if someone told him that his mother or sister was on Tinder? The truth — as my friend succinctly pointed out — is that if a woman is willing, she doesn’t need Tinder to hookup. They’re flying planes, becoming presidents, hosting Oscars, but there’s still something about a woman’s sexuality that makes society fearful. But women are also always reminded of the caveats associated with acting like a sexual being. There are, of course, women who are exercising their right to sexual liberation without guilt or restraint, as it should’ve always been.
“Why would I want to be a man’s option, when I can be his priority? Another reason why men don’t see as many hookups as they’d like to actually has nothing to do with male behaviour. Can Indian women use their sexuality the way they want to, without feeling ashamed? But this is a microcosm of India, a small pool of women.
Editor's note: So you’ve swiped right, exchanged numbers and got yourself a date on Tinder. This is a 10-part series on the dating landscape among the young-ish and single-ish of India. When Tinder was launched in India there was a quiet cheer among all men, married or otherwise.