However, we believe that the identification of the emotional, character and spiritual conflicts that contribute to marital infidelity can be uncovered and resolved.Such healing is not possible unless each spouse has an understanding of and a loyalty to the sacrament of marriage and to the goodness in his/her spouse.
A survey conducted across 40 countries last year, by the Pew Research Centre, USA, found that 62% of Indians had no issues indulging in extramarital affairs.
It is no surprise then, that several Indian users seem to have contributed to making a French website — which provocatively calls itself “the first extramarital dating site made by women” — a virtual hit. “You can meet married or attached men and women from all over the world,” it says, while asking the user to “be honest about your marital status.” The irony couldn’t be more palpable.
In a bid to understand what it is that leads married men and women in India to cheat on their partners, we decided to interact with some firsthand.
We created two profiles on the site (with no photographs) — one of a 30-year-old married man, and the other, a 30-year-old married woman, both from Mumbai.
Being a doctor, he said he was attracted to many of his female patients, but never knew how to approach them.
The website, probably, gave him the strength of anonymity. He spent more of his time asking us for guidance on how he could approach women who he meets regularly.
Instant satisfaction Most of the Indian men who approached us on this site wanted to set up a meeting at the earliest, almost as if time was running out.
Amit Sehgal, 49, was a stockbroker and married to someone who is “employed” (he didn’t specify her profession) for over 20 years.
However, he wasn’t as secretive about his intentions.
He left us a few messages, giving us a fixed time at which to chat, and insisted that we meet as soon as possible.
When we refused to comply, he asked us for our picture to compensate.