To his credit, though, Trifonov has a point: people will inevitably flirt, and it’s fun. “Let's be honest, flirting and dating a co-worker is initially exciting and makes work much more interesting,” says Jude Miller Burke, Ph. “It is fun to have a special friend and a secret to put a little sparkle in your day, however it is a no-win once the relationship progresses down the road.
You have crossed professional boundaries and created in some sense of the word, a subgroup.
Imagine, while either discussing an important project or sending back and forth GIFs with your coworkers to express how you feel about Monday, a little bot appears in Slack to tell you that Jim from accounting is into you. It operates similarly to Tinder, just, uh, in your work chat.
It’s the brainchild of dating app Feeld (formerly known as 3nder, the app for finding threesomes). “Embrace feelings.” That’s all nice and wonderful (embracing your feelings is good) but also — why would you install a third party app that acts like Tinder onto your workplace chat app?
Office crushes sure make the workday more interesting—and give you the inspiration to dress a little sharper for that Monday morning meeting, too.
You may have already seen how he or she handles stress and treats peers.
Mention the name of a coworker to the bot, see if the coworker mentioned your name, and boom — you’re a match, and you are free to lock eyes and then run off into the distance on horseback after your file that big deck.
Here’s a screenshot from its website that illustrates how it works: Founder Dimo Trifonov thinks it makes everything just blissful. In short, the idea that you can still have feelings for other people in the workplace, and embrace them,” Trifonov, who ostensibly does not work in HR, said in a press release.
Even if you make sure everything is above-board, you don’t need your workplace peers thinking the worst.
Keep the boundaries clear between your personal and professional lives.
If working in close proximity to your love interest makes it tough to keep your personal life from affecting your professional productivity, then dating a co-worker might not be the best choice.
You’ll also want to consider the financial impact of a potential breakup.
If you become distracted by the excitement of your new romance—or distraught if that relationship goes awry—will you be less effective?