It’s like telling yourself you’re prepared and ready for anything,” say Kylie & Jonathan.
Also make sure to keep on top of your hair and make-up.
Given this reality, it’s understandable that many women develop a negative attitude about romantic relationships.
As a result, I often I hear divorced women say things such as, “I hate dating,” and “there are no good men left.” This view point will negatively impact, if not sabotage, any effort to find new love. If you’re feeling stuck in negative emotions such as anger and resentment, my suggestion is that you first commit to the on-going work of developing a more positive and open mindset, what world-renowned Stanford University psychologist and author Carol Dweck describes as a “growth mindset.” Simply put, a growth mindset is the willingness to embrace our challenges as opportunities for change and growth.
Depending on how long you were in a committed partnership, it may be years since you were last single.
You are now older, have a lot more responsibilities than you did in your early 20s, and may have children.
Not surprisingly, one of the most important aspects of dating is learning how to “market” yourself.
This includes taking care of yourself inside and out so you feel your most attractive and confident.
This includes being open to dating much older men, who may have children, and focusing less on physical traits such as height (a big one!
), body type, and hair (or the lack there of.) Years ago, after my own broken engagement, I went back on-line and was shocked to see that many of the men showing up in my search were balding, divorced, and had children.
Furthermore, Dweck states that true healing can only occur when we are in this mindset.
However, if despite your efforts, you find that you are unable to make this shift on your own, seek out professional help such as a therapist and/or a coach, develop a yoga and mindfulness practice, and emerge yourself in a supportive environment with like-minded people and uplifting content (books, audios, podcasts, etc.) In addition to feeling better in your everyday life, your experience of dating will be radically different.
In addition to taking care of your health by eating well, exercising, and sleeping sufficiently for example, taking care of our physical presentation is especially important during the dating process.