(As Donaghue later reminded her, the sheer number of people on the planet means that there is more than enough “competition” for anyone, regardless of orientation.)“Maybe! But after Donaghue prodded her for a few more minutes—prompting Rose to reveal that she has been rejected by men because of her own bisexuality—she finally opened up: “Maybe I’m not secure enough to be with a man that likes other men because I would feel like when he’s out with his boys, it’s just more of a moment.”The painfully honest conversation perfectly illustrated the stigma that bisexual men still face in the dating world, with Donaghue challenging Rose to explain what, exactly, she meant by the term “uncomfortable.” Rose struggled to piece together a clear answer and promised to revisit the subject in next week’s episode of Loveline, saying that she “can’t fully articulate it right now.”One member of the Facebook audience, in particular, elicited a strong reaction from the hosts by writing, “This is a problem with people accepting bisexuality in women and not men.” And although it would be a stretch to claim that bisexual women are socially accepted, the commenter was certainly onto something: bisexual men are especially disliked.An October nationally-representative study of social attitudes from researchers at Indiana University found that “all participants’ attitudes were generally more positive toward bisexual women than bisexual men.” Even though attitudes toward bisexual people as a whole were in the negative-to-neutral range, that gendered difference was still statistically significant.
Rose, who said on Loveline that she is indeed “attracted to women or [she] has been in the past,” would fit squarely in the middle of that Venn diagram.
But this phenomenon isn’t so much a simple case of “do as I say, not as I do” hypocrisy as it is a byproduct of the unique stereotypes and stigmas that surround bisexual men.
I have always been an advocate of online dating, for a variety of reasons.
I think it's a great way to meet people you would never otherwise encounter, see places you may never have heard of and build confidence.
It takes less than a minute to change my online sexuality and to add an honest disclaimer, or clarification, in my summary.
I still stand by my online dating advocacy; I just wish it weren't so strenuous to navigate as a bi girl looking for romance.
I definitely find beauty in everybody whether they’re heavy-set, super skinny, if they’re white, black, Indian, Asian, Spanish.”But apparently she draws a hard line at bisexual guys.
Chris Donaghue, was genuinely shocked at Rose’s answer and prompted her to “go further,” suggesting that she might be under the impression there would be more “competition” for a man’s affections if he were bisexual.
Sure, there are dating sites specifically designed for bisexual women, but they do not have the reach or the users of other, more well-known sites, and frankly, they tend to alienate gay women and straight men.
Because, like many other bi girls, I am attracted to gay women and straight men, I want that exposure.
Don't think I am not tempted to go the blunt and honest route: "Bi girl, who is in no way interested in being your married couple plaything, seeks a woman who is not threatened by ex-boyfriends and does not believe bi women are incapable of fidelity, or a man who will not assume that he can sit and 'watch' and is not threatened by my fondness for breasts." Bi girl seeks love.